Saturday, February 12, 2011

We are hoping to adopt ASAP

Jason and I have always wanted to adopt we hadn't really talked about when to start but we trusted that God would work all the details out on the when, where and how out according to His will.

When I was about 8 weeks pregnant with the twins I developed a huge heart for special needs kids before we even knew we were pregnant with twins and before we knew that anything was wrong with them. I thought our baby had downs but now I know God was just preparing me to be Melody and Madison's Mom. Here is the link to our first post about Melody and Madison.

Fast forward to a few months ago I had been thinking and decided we should probably wait until Judah was two to start the adoption process. Jason and I had talked about adopting children with special medical needs but the conversation hadn't really gone very far.

A few days ago I just started thinking there is no way I can wait until Judah is two I want to adopt now. Then I reminded myself we should wait so he would be older. I was having a battle because I was really wanting to start the process ASAP.

So yesterday I saw Baby A's picture on Kristy's facebook page and I clicked on it then fell in love. He has heart issues (I wanted to adopt a baby with heart issues since melody and Madison had heart problems the thought of a heart baby doesn't scare me) and he had EB which didn't worry me one bit since I had been following a few blogs of families whose children have/had EB.

I can not explain it but the more I read and looked at pictured the more I fell in love. I felt like our baby was overseas and I needed to get him right away.

I texted Jason as soon as I got finished reading about Baby A and told him he HAD to call me as soon as he got off of work I had to tell him something. I told him not to worry and that it was exciting. I started telling Jason all about Baby A so now I will tell y'all.

BabyA was born out of a segregate pregnancy and was a TWIN once his parents saw a picture of him and realized something was wrong with him they decided to only take his twin brother home. At first I was really mad at his parents but the more I thought about it I just started to pray for them. There is not a lot of research on EB where he was born and they just may not have known how to care for him. So I have been praying for them and his twin brother every since. As far as I can tell from reading about him he spent the first 10 months of his life swaddled in a hospital bed because they were not sure how to care for him. He has now been moved to a different hospital where is is being bandaged and has his own nanny. The whole time I was talking to Jason I was fighting back tears I had to stop talking a few times because I was crying so hard. At the end of our conversation I asked Jason "so what do you think?" and he said "I'm all about adoption." I said "can I move forward" and he said "of course this is something we have always talked about."

I was sooooo excited! I got off the phone and started contacting volunteers who were working with his case to figure out what all we needed to do to bring him home. We submitted an application a few days ago to an agency but they are no longer working on his case so we will need to pick a new agency on Monday (please be praying for wisdom for us on this choice) and see if we can get approved. If we get approved we will move forward and start our home study as soon as our house is ready.

This has already been an emotional roller coaster and it just started . We were so excited once we found out about Baby A and we faxed the application right away then we found out the government where he is most likely wouldn't let us adopt him because we didn't have experience with EB and I was crushed. Then we found out our insurance would cover in home care nursing as long as a doctor would prescribe it (hopefully that helps our case). Then we found out insurance wouldn't cover his bandages (they cost 5 to 7 thousand dollars a month!!!) then we found out that first lady was wrong and they will in fact cover them.

It seems like everything is falling into place but our hope is not on our feelings or what seems to be but but our hope is on what God's word says. If this is God's will it will work out and if it doesn't then we will trust that God's ways are far better then ours.

Many plans are in a man's heart, But the counsel of the LORD will stand.
Proverbs 19:21

Will you please join our family in praying for all the details big and small. If we are not Baby A's forever family please be praying that his forever family would begin the process to adopt him. I would LOVE to be this boy's Momma but if that's not God's will my hearts desire truly is that this sweet baby would be in a loving home with a family who cared for Him and taught him the hard truths of Gods word. I want him to know that he is fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139. His life is not a mistake and God is just and right in all He does!

As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. And his disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.
John 9:1-3

Father I pray you would use Baby A's life for your glory I pray you would use Baby A to preach the gospel to the ends of the earth if it be your will Lord.

A few ways you can help:

1) Be praying for Baby A's forever family that they would move quickly and bring this baby home soon.

2) Please be praying for us. Please pray that if this is God's will everything will fall into place and we would be able to keep moving forward.

3) Please pray that this would never become about Jason and I but about helping Baby A find His forever family

4) Most of all please pray that God would be glorified through all of these things and His name would be made great!

I have a lot more details to share and I will hopefully be posting blogs as often as I can. I am just warning you some of the posts might be just a sentences long but I want to try to remember everything I can about this process. So please forgive me for any lame posts :)

Thank you guys for taking time to read this new chapter of our lives! I am so excited to see what is going to happen next!


  1. Very excited to see what the future holds! :D

  2. Vanessa,
    I'll be praying from down here .... and look forward to see God's plans unfold in your lives!!

  3. excited for you guys! please keep us updated!